One of the most important concepts for us to perceive and incorporate as spiritual beings occupying physical real estate, i.e. our human bodies and all that goes with that, is the idea of staying in the flow and allowing, while doing what needs to be done. As a result of my strong feelings about this, I am constantly working and tweaking my understanding of this concept. Currently, this is my present comprehension of how it all plays out.
“Allowing” is surrendering control, opening up to the unknown, and trusting that it is all happening as it needs to. “Doing” is taking control, taking action, making things happen in what may seem like a linear way. They’re like opposite verbs, aren’t they? But both need to be done simultaneously. Now just how is that accomplished?
As I explore this idea and examine my own actions or non-actions, I see that when things are not flowing, what I do that blocks the flow is to not trust. I get in my head and second guess my intuitive hits (sound familiar?) and judge myself by the outer world’s criteria. By those standards for which no one can ever be “enough”, I am never smart enough, pretty enough, young enough, strong enough, clever enough, rich enough, etc., etc. This puts me in a constant state of lack and shame. It’s the “just who do you think you are?” syndrome. I’m tired of this old struggle, so I’m willing to try another way.
So first of all, as I understand it, to follow your truth or your intuitive hits, it is necessary to be brave. We have not been trained to be brave in this way. We are taught to calculate, modulate, and manipulate. It’s who you know, how much money you make, how safe you are, right? But there is a place where trusting your gut pays off more times than not. How many times have you heard the stories about 911, or other situations, where people listened to their intuition (whether they realized it at the time or not) and avoided life threatening catastrophes? We’ve all heard things like I never would have met my husband if I hadn’t done such and such, I would never had found my perfect home if I had gotten the house I put my first offer down, though at the time I was so disappointed, etc.
But to live in a state of consciously allowing our intuition to guide our next step is another thing. It takes brutal honesty with yourself. It takes getting used to the discomfort of not knowing, even learning to embrace it!
So how does one consciously learn to be intuitive and in the flow? And how do you balance that out with action that you want to also flow? One way is to get in touch with your heart. When you have a question of what to do next, get quiet, breathe into your heart, and ask yourself, “What is my next step?” Then listen for the answer. It may come as a gut feeling, a small voice in your head, an idea or a dream that comes to you in the night, words in a book or a magazine that you are pulled towards, or perhaps ideas that are triggered by something you’ve come in contact with during the day. When the answer does come, it will be accompanied by a sense of knowing, of rightness for you. This is where the action part comes in. When you are taking your next step from your heart, then you are in the flow. The action and flow become one.
Learn to practice the Buddhist concept of non-attachment. You do what your heart is leading you to do, but you learn to not be attached to the outcome of what you had in mind, what your linear brain told you should happen. The Universe may have another idea for what is best for you and your spiritual development and Spirit/God/Goddess always gives you what you need, in perfect timing.
It takes practice to “let go and let God(dess),” to trust in the benevolence of the Universe. So go ahead: practice, practice, practice! Think of it as a new skill you are learning and be patient and kind to yourself. And be okay with yourself if and when you screw up. We all do. Just let it go and try again and again and again. Have fun and enjoy!
Many blessings in this beautiful fall season,